Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than the ones you did, by the pains you avoided than the ones you faced. To avoid the pain of this disappointment, throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbour, catch the trade winds in your sails, explore, dream, discover and grow, don’t flee from your pains, face it squarely. Although the gift of pain may bring a temporary hurt and pressure, it will certainly be of help and bring its pleasure appropriately ~ Sarah Brown
Memory of the Past …
Look behind reminds me of an event that I want to share with you to shed more light on the necessity of the gift of pains.
It happened during my secondary school days. The football team of my school has been known to be a cheap side for other team in the Annual Inter-school Football Competition until a PHE teacher was transferred to my school. He decided to take the school team up and started with rigorous training with the team; I sometimes watch them train and I can feel the pains of the training.
Sometimes, the teach will subject them to long hour of training and intemperate exercises. Gradually this was equipping them for the challenges ahead and preparing them a place on the platform of success.
Later in the year, the annual football competition started as usual but to the amazement of everyone something had changed about my school team. The team keep defeating teams from other schools until it finally lifts the golden cup and this success continued till I finished from the school.
Here is the bottom line, while many people are looking at the team lifting the golden cup, I was looking at the process that led it, and I discovered that though it was not easy, yet it was worth it.
Application of information is hanged on three focal points, these are knowledge, understanding and wisdom. While Knowledge is light and Wisdom is the principal thing, the connecting point between these two is Understanding because it is understanding that leads to the correct application of knowledge which is what wisdom represents.
It is not only sufficient to be aware of the gifts of pain that comes our ways in life but we must have the clarity of this so that we can get the profits it has to offer. It is those that understand the content in the gift of pains that will face it and those who can’t understand will simply avoid or flee from it.
Most of the time what we understand about the gift of pain is the hurt that comes with it but that is only on the surface level, there are deeper things that we must understand about it so that we can grow through it and be made perfect through it.
The Manual Book of life says that for the time being, no discipline (gift of pain) brings joy but it seems grievous and painful, but afterwards it yields a peaceable fruit of righteousness, which results in right living, to those who have been trained by it.
It is the understanding of this gift beyond the surface level that helped people who are have become stars today to go through their pains despite the scars it placed on them. When you come across any star, don’t just checking their twinkling light, look for their scars on them because there is no star without scars but what helped them to bear the scars that led to them to stardom is the understanding of the gift of pain, the bridge that connects them to their destination.
There are some understanding that one must have about the gift of pain that will enable us to bear it , go and grow through and also be refined by it as seen in the case of gold.
- It is the Path to Pleasure
It is by the way of pain that we arrive at pleasure ~ Marquis
Every pressure that we are going through in life is meant to produce pleasure for us and precious things in and for us. Many people want to cross to pleasure in life without the desire to pass through the pressure that comes with it. They want to pass examination without diligent study, so they look for wonderlands all over; they want promotion that they are not ready to work for, so they therefore look for shortcuts that will cut them short; they want to get to the top of the tree without going from its bottom and they continue to fall off the trunk; they want the enjoyment but not the endurance that leads to it; they want the glory but hate the gall; they desire the crown but don’t want to see the thorn. But we have to understand that these are the things located in the gifts that pains brings to those who diligently pass through and ensure that they grow through it. They will certainly receive all that it has to offer them at the end of the day.
2. It builds Capacity for Strength
The gift of pains does not leave those that receives it the same but it builds capacity for strength in them. Just as it happens that you don’t go to the next class or level without passing examination or necessary tests which are meant to examine your competence for such a position or class. If you will only understand your pain, your will go through it gladly because it will make you better and stronger at the end of the day. It is through the gift of pains that we build the capacity to enjoy and sustain our pleasures in life. the pains that you feel today is the strength that you get tomorrow.
You must be built to operate and be sustained in the height that you are going.
3. It brings out the Best in Individuals
Human being is a bundle of treasures, because we have the treasures loaded in our earthen vessel but many a times we never what we are capable of doing until we are subjected to the pains that brings them out of us. In the ore state, gold never knew that they can shine until they were subjected to furnace that brought the best out of them. As someone puts it that necessity is the mother of invention.
Out of sufferings have emerged the strongest souls; the massive characters are seared with scars ~ Khalil Gibran
4. It is to prepare you for Greater Heights
Our light affliction (gift of pains) is working for us a better weight of glory. It must be understood that the gift of pain that you embrace today is preparing you for the gain of tomorrow. The sleepless night that you are keeping today, the candles that you are burning from end to end, the sacrificial investment, the labour and services of today is the preparatory ground for tomorrow’s greatness.
5. It is but for a Short Period
The period to go through the pain is so short compared with the period of the gain it will bring. The period of apprenticeship or internship cannot be compared to the period to practice the skill. So also, the period that it takes to burn the candles and prepare for examination cannot be compared to the greater future that lies ahead but it must be clear to us that it is the momentary pains that produce our permanent gains.
Tough time never last, it is tough people that do last
When you are confronted with the option to flee or face the gift of pain, always remember that people go through much pains trying to avoid pain. Hence, it is not just about the pain of the moment but the gain that it offers you that gives its deserving meaning.
Therefore, whatever the pain, don’t let it keep you down, rather, let it fire you to the top.
Don’t let your pain keep you down, let it fire you up to the top