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Understanding the Gift of Pains

Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than the ones you did, by the pains you avoided than the ones you faced. To avoid the pain of this disappointment, throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbour, catch the trade winds in your sails, explore, dream, discover and grow, don’t flee from your pains, face it squarely. Although the gift of pain may bring a temporary hurt and pressure, it will certainly be of help and bring its pleasure appropriately ~ Sarah Brown

Memory of the Past …

Look behind reminds me of an event that I want to share with you to shed more light on the necessity of the gift of pains.

It happened during my secondary school days. The football team of my school has been known to be a cheap side for other team in the Annual Inter-school Football Competition until a PHE teacher was transferred to my school. He decided to take the school team up and started with rigorous training with the team; I sometimes watch them train and I can feel the pains of the training.

Sometimes,  the teach will subject them to long hour of training and intemperate exercises. Gradually this was equipping them for the challenges ahead and preparing them a place on the platform of success.

Later in the year, the annual football competition started as usual but to the amazement of everyone something had changed about my school team. The team keep defeating teams from other schools until it finally lifts the golden cup and this success continued till I finished from the school.

Here is the bottom line, while many people are looking at the team lifting the golden cup, I was looking at the process that led it, and I discovered that though it was not easy, yet it was worth it.

Understanding …

Application of information is hanged on three focal points, these are knowledge, understanding and wisdom. While Knowledge is light and Wisdom is the principal thing, the connecting point between these two is Understanding because it is understanding that leads to the correct application of knowledge which is what wisdom represents.

It is not only sufficient to be aware of the gifts of pain that comes our ways in life but we must have the clarity of this so that we can get the profits it has to offer. It is those that understand the content in the gift of pains that will face it and those who can’t understand will simply avoid or flee from it.

Most of the time what we understand about the gift of pain is the hurt that comes with it but that is only on the surface level, there are deeper things that we must understand about it so that we can grow through it and be made perfect through it.

The Manual Book of life says that for the time being, no discipline (gift of pain) brings joy but it seems grievous and painful, but afterwards it yields a peaceable fruit of righteousness, which results in right living, to those who have been trained by it.

It is the understanding of this gift beyond the surface level that helped people who are have become stars today to go through their pains despite the scars it placed on them. When you come across any star, don’t just checking their twinkling light, look for their scars on them because there is no star without scars but what helped them to bear the scars that led to them to stardom is the understanding of the gift of pain, the bridge that connects them to their destination.

There are some understanding that one must have about the gift of pain that will enable us to bear it , go and grow through and also be refined by it as seen in the case of gold.

  1. It is the Path to Pleasure

It is by the way of pain that we arrive at pleasure ~ Marquis 

Every pressure that we are going through in life is meant to produce pleasure for us and precious things in and for us. Many people want to cross to pleasure in life without the desire to pass through the pressure that comes with it. They want to pass examination without diligent study, so they look for wonderlands all over; they want promotion that they are not ready to work for, so they therefore look for shortcuts that will cut them short; they want to get to the top of the tree without going from its bottom and they continue to fall off the trunk;  they want the enjoyment but not the endurance that leads to it; they want the glory but hate the gall; they desire the crown but don’t want to see the thorn. But we have to understand that these are the things located in the gifts that pains brings to those who diligently pass through and ensure that they grow through it. They will certainly receive all that it has to offer them at the end of the day.

2. It builds Capacity for Strength

The gift of pains does not leave those that receives it the same but it builds capacity for strength in them. Just as it happens that you don’t go to the next class or level without passing examination or necessary tests which are meant to examine your competence for such a position or class. If you will only understand your pain, your will go through it gladly because it will make you better and stronger at the end of the day. It is through the gift of pains that we build the capacity to enjoy and sustain our pleasures in life. the pains that you feel today is the strength that you get tomorrow.

You must be built to operate and be sustained in the height that you are going.

3. It brings out the Best in Individuals

Human being is a bundle of treasures, because we have the treasures loaded in our earthen vessel but many a times we never what we are capable of doing until we are subjected to the pains that brings them out of us. In the ore state, gold never knew that they can shine until they were subjected to furnace that brought the best out of them. As someone puts it that necessity is the mother of invention.

Out of sufferings have emerged the strongest souls; the massive characters are seared with scars ~ Khalil Gibran

4. It is to prepare you for Greater Heights

Our light affliction (gift of pains) is working for us a better weight of glory. It must be understood that the gift of pain that you embrace today is preparing you for the gain of tomorrow. The sleepless night that you are keeping today, the candles that you are burning from end to end, the sacrificial investment, the labour and services of today is the preparatory ground for tomorrow’s greatness.

5. It is but for a Short Period

The period to go through the pain is so short compared with the period of the gain it will bring. The period of apprenticeship or internship cannot be compared to the period to practice the skill. So also, the period that it takes to burn the candles and prepare for examination cannot be compared to the greater future that lies ahead but it must be clear to us that it is the momentary pains that produce our permanent gains.

Tough time never last, it is tough people that do last

When you are confronted with the option to flee or face the gift of pain, always remember that people go through much pains trying to avoid pain. Hence, it is not just about the pain of the moment but the gain that it offers you that gives its deserving meaning.

Therefore, whatever the pain, don’t let it keep you down, rather, let it fire you to the top.

Don’t let your pain keep you down, let it fire you up to the top


Life is filled with many thing that we look forward to seeing, wonderful gift; gifts of people, possessions, positions and many desirable things. At the same time, it is filled with ups and downs, hills and valleys, mountains and plains and different seasons of life but it must be known that it is the combinations of these that make the best out of life.

Gifts are desirable. Everybody wants them, especially if they are thing that one needs at that moment. This gift could be physical or intangible but when it comes, it is often embraced  for the reason that it comes not as a result of your labour but due to the willingness and the kindness of the heart of the giver. No matter the size of a gift, it is welcoming, especially when it comes from the heart that is loving and kind. Hence, it is not the size of the gift that matters, but the size of the heart that gives it.

It is not the size of the gift that matters but the size of the heart that gives it

On several occasion people had been presented different gifts – houses, clothes, motor car, scholarship, precious gems, books and other material things and to crown it all, our Maker is the Giver of gifts (James 1:17) and He gives unreservedly (James 1:5).

But in addition to the gifts listed, there is a particular gift that comes our way that we often want to avoid and if possible, we want to do without it, but the reality is that every gift has something important to do in our lives and this gift is the Gift of Pain.

While gifts are desirable pains are undesirable. When we go through pain, we feel hurt and confused, disturbed and disorganised. While some pains should be avoided, there are some that should be gladly welcome because of the outcome of such in our lives (Heb. 12:11). He that wants to avoid such a pain cannot avoid the consequences of the avoidance.

A student that does not want to go through the pains of going to classes and studying hard must be ready to welcome failure when it knocks; an entrepreneur that does not want to bear the pains of starting a business and weathering the storms will surely consume his seed of investment before it germinates; a minister of the Gospel that does not want to go through the necessary pains of the ministry will find himself in the category of people like Demas who quit ministry and abandoned faith.

However, it must be clearly understood that every good thing that we are seeing today passed through the process of pain. Remember before gold become attractive it must have gone through fire and the degree of the fire it passed through is what determines it lustre and its price in the market. Indeed anyone that will not leave his comfort zone cannot arrive at his comfort land, in other words journeying from comfort zone to comfort land requires going through the process of pain.

Anyone that will not leave his comfort zone cannot arrive at his comfort land

The Narrative from a Shining Gold

I wish we could approach these gold that we desire and spend fortunes to get and they will have something to tell us about how they were gently sitting in their ore state deep down in the soil, black, dark and uninviting. All of a sudden, they started hearing the sound of digging and terribly discomfiting and discomforting activities were being carried out on them. Shortly, the soil covering them were removed and that was not enough they were being cut in piece and evacuated from their comfort zone.

The narrative from one of the gold continues. From there, they were carried into the factory and brought before the waiting furnace in the processing area called the kiln. The fire was increased and they were pushed into it. The experience in the fire was not very sweet (as narrated).

Pain is necessary. Sometimes it is the teacher that we require to bring out the best out of us, indeed it is a hidden gift of healing and hope ~ Janet Jackson

It was hot and painful in the kiln and as the temperature is increasing so was the pain but after a while, when we examine ourselves we can see the dirt and impurities covering us being removed, indeed when the dross is taken away from the silver, there will be a vessel for the smith (Pro 25:4). We waited and patiently pass through the process in the furnace and here we are shining as everybody can see.

That is the imaginative report of one of the piece of gold that you spend fortune to get. It is always good that we imagine and know that they passed through processes of pains before emerging as the shining gold that can stand the test of times and seasons, and experiences of life.


Every pain is a gift and opportunity just as every disappointment will lead another appointment if properly engaged

Although, Pain is a gift that nobody wants but the reality of it is that it is unavoidable because life is not just about the pain but the result it brings. We will only begin to enjoy the benefits that pains stand to give us when we are seeing it in its true appearance, as a gift.

There is a silent beauty hidden amongst pain, if you will sit in it you may never find it but if you grow through it, you will find the treasure ~ Nickki Rowe

Leadership, Make the Leader, Organizational Development

Lead to Next: Taking Your Organization to the Next Level


The value of the end of your leadership is determined by the value that starts it.
I studied Computer Science and graduated with the hope that one day, I would be fully functioning in the field of CS.

But, I realized later that God took me through the course in order to function fully in the field of Leadership Art and Science, by the application of certain knowledge of CS.

One of the most important assignments of a leader is to lead an organization or the team to the next level.

A good leader is not expected to leave an organization as he met it or even worse.

Leaders are called to Lead to Next.

In Computer Science, there is a Basic Programming Course that has Control Structures called ‘FOR…NEXT.’

The FOR…NEXT syntax gives a variable starting value and ending value, with its increment on each pass of the process.

This basic process simply focus on a single task under a flow of control before moving to next counter.

FOR…NEXT is not only required in basic computer programming. It is a leadership syntax required for leading any organization or ministry to her next.

The question that is common whenever leaders finish a task or accomplish something worthwhile is what next?

Leadership structure requires understanding two important things.

1.  What For?

2. What Next?

If you lead an organization, success begins with WHAT FOR?

This simple understanding in leadership determines the starting value and ending value.

Every successful leader knows this basic syntax. The value of the end of your leadership is determined by the value that starts it.

For instance, every decision requires a starting value and ending value.

If the ending value is not greater than the starting value, it may affect what is needed to move up to the next.

So many organizations are stagnant because the variable values are not established in a way that what starts will end or end well, in order to be positioned for the next.

Leaders are responsible for this important process and how they respond to this determines the kind of leaders they become and how far they can take the organizations they lead.

We will consider the value required to take your organization to the next by next week.

Please note that MAKE THE LEADER Articles and Podcasts are released every Monday. The mission is to Make Leaders Who Make Other Leaders.

Article Originally Written and Published by Benjamin Suulola


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